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For months I’ve been planning to write about this subject, but something always held back my fingers from writing my heart away.

Until now.

It is time. It is time for us to talk about suicide.

Suicide rates have been increasing at an alarming rate

After the suicides of Robin Williams and Chester Bennington, a series of suicide attempts followed and in the year 2018, a great upsurge has been observed in the suicide rates around the world. The thing is that when celebrities take their own lives, it results in huge media coverage around the world, but it also triggers, to follow, many people who are at brink of suicide themselves. A study released in February by researchers from Columbia University said that there were 18,690 suicides in the four months after the death of Robin Williams in August 2014, an excess of 1 841 cases — nearly a 10% increase, based on previous monthly suicide data from 1999 to 2015.

Suicide stats

US suicide statistics as provided by the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention (AFSP.)

A chain of celebrity suicides have left the people wondering

Speaking of the contemporary year, Tim Bergling, better known by his stage name Avicii, died on April 20, 2018, at the age of 28 in Muscat, Oman. TMZ reported that the cause of death was a suicide due to self-inflicted injuries. Some sources claimed he had died of blood loss after cutting himself with broken glass from a wine bottle. Just after one month on June 5, 2018, Katherine Noel Brosnahan, known professionally as Kate Spade was found dead in apparent suicide at the age of 55. She was  an eminent American fashion designer and businesswoman and was the founder and former co-owner of the designer brand Kate Spade, New York. CNN reported that after Spade’s death, suicide hotline calls rose by 65 percent. Two days later, on June 8, 2018,  Anthony Bourdain committed suicide at age 61. Anthony was a gifted chef and storyteller who used his books and shows to explore culture, cuisine, and the human condition.

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Avicii was one of the most talented DJs in the world.

Coming to my homeland, the great Pakistan

Coming to my homeland, the great Pakistan, on 31 May, 2018, a boy named Ammar jumped off from the 4th floor of Centaurus shopping mall at Islamabad. Since suicide is considered as a taboo in this country, Ammar’s family tried to cover this incident by giving different statements first saying that the boy did not jump, but fell to his death, later claiming that he was under the influence of spirits and demons, which forced him to perform this action. However the CCTV footage clearly shows that it was no accident and Ammar jumped in all conscious. Reports are telling that the boy was suffering from chronic depression and attempted suicide twice within the past few months. He was also bullied by his college fellows who made fun of his voice and dark complexion.

Moving towards the birthplace of Islam, Mecca, a frenchman committed suicide by jumping off from the third floor of Grand Mosque, just meters away from the Holy Kabbah. The unfortunate incident happened on June 8, 2018.


Suicide statistics as provided by Statista

It makes one wonder, why did they do it?

After hearing or reading about such appalling and devastating news, it makes one wonder, why did they do it? What was hurting so much inside of them that they chose death over life? Taking your life requires so much courage and vehemence, not everyone can do such a thing. I feel sorry for these people and it breaks me because I always say to myself, if only I could help them, if only I was there I would’ve talked them out of this thing, and not being able to do anything makes me feel so helpless and impuissant as if I am paralyzed.

There is this phenomenon that, Everything Affects Everything

Within every 40 seconds each day, someone out there in the world commits suicide. There is this phenomenon that, Everything Affects Everything, which simply implies that whatever action you do will affect another human being and then this cycle will continue. Sometimes you may think that there is no reason for you to live, you think that your actions are not affecting anyone so you may as well kill yourself because it will not affect anyone but my friend this is the point where you’re at fault.

You see, when you get out of your home daily for school, you feed that stray cat some leftovers of the breakfast, you reach the bus stop where your friend always wait for you, you go to school and you’re in the school’s football team, and not to your surprise you’re the best player the team has got. You’re probably the Messi or Ronaldo or Salah of your team. Now imagine if you supposedly kill yourself, that stray cat won’t be fed anymore by anyone, it might die as well; your friend who always used to wait for you at the bus stop may be so heartbroken from your death that he might not have the energy to come at the same bus stop daily because he will miss you, so he might as well change the school bus; the football team which you were in, they won’t be the best team of the district anymore because you were the one who raised them to the heights of success and glory. Your mother will lose her sleep and diet. She will cry days and nights for you, which in result will have an adverse affect upon her health and she might go to a depressed state or become sick. Your father will be devastated and he won’t be able to perform well on his job like he used before. Your friends will miss you every day when they’ll pass by your home or see your old Instagram feed. Everything will be affected by your death. Everything.

Sure, Robert Frost said that, “In three words I can sum up everything I’ve learned about life: it goes on.”  Certainly it will go on, certainly the sun will shine the next day and the birds will continue to sing but your action will have consequences, upon you and upon everything surrounding you: your family, that stray cat, that football team, your friends, your school, everyone and everything will be affected by it. So next time you get the thought that your death won’t affect anyone, think again.


A concept reiterated by Netflix Show 13 Reasons Why

I sometimes wonder how do people ravage the lives of others and sleep so peacefully.

I sometimes wonder how do people ravage the lives of others and sleep so peacefully. How do they live with themselves knowing that they have caused hurt to someone else that they have brought pain and tears to them. Making a mess of someone’s life is not a joke. It’s funny how people think that their actions are not affecting the people around them, or even if they do they act oblivious to it or they just don’t seem to care at all. People ruin each other. You do not know what is going on in anyone’s life but your own. And when you mess with one part of a person’s life, you’re not just messing with that one part. Unfortunately, you can’t be that precise or selective. When you mess with one part of a person’s life , you’re messing with their entire life. Everything affects everything, my friend.

They say death brings an end to pain and misery but what about the misery it brings to the loved ones of the deceased?

They say death brings an end to pain and misery but what about the misery it brings to the loved ones of the deceased? Ever tried to wonder why people kill themselves? Ever bother to ponder upon it? Let me tell you why. You see many suicidal deaths that  occur daily are of teenagers or of young adults. When you’re a teenager, you’re vulnerable to, well, literally everything. And some of us are born a little too sensitive, some of us are born over thinkers and worse some of us are born empaths. What goes inside the mind of a suicidal person are a series of thoughts, it’s like a spiral that goes all the way down and as you move down it tightens and then it feels like you’re choking on your very own thoughts.

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Over thinking leads to suicidal thoughts

Over thinking leads to suicidal thoughts. Depression also tags along with over thinking and then voila! There you go, a completely messed up mind. Everyday a suicidal person wakes up and does not have the energy to get out of bed, suicidal people lay for minutes or even hours on bed thinking is it worth getting up and dressing up for school or not? They do their actions like normal human beings, for example, they’ll take a bath, eat their breakfast and take the school bus, do their homework like all the other normal kids but their mind won’t be present during all of this. In fact they’d be thinking something else, something completely different and sometimes totally irrelevant. They won’t find peace anywhere. They’ll continue to think that they are better off dead and this is especially because people make them feel like it. Their friends and family make them feel like this. Studies have shown that so many depressed teenagers have already decided how would they kill themselves, it’s just in the back of their mind. All they need is that incident to take place, that extreme mental break down to occur or just that one situation to happen and then they’ll do it, they’ll take their life. You see these people are usually extremely sensitive and over thinkers and when you tell them to “just get over it and be strong, it’s nothing,” trust me it does nothing but simply exacerbate the problem. If you genuinely want to help a suicidal person then be there for them when they need you, check on them every now and then and don’t just say you’ll be fine, drag them out of their house and make them watch a movie with you. Tell them the positive and beautiful things about life. Tell them reasons to live. Tell them they are beautiful and a great company often. Be with them and divert their mind so that they won’t over think. Anxiety and depression are the leading causes of suicides among teenagers. These things eat you up alive and then happiness and peace seem elusive to you.


A lighthearted look at trends of how Indians have committed suicide between 2000 and 2012. Designed by Suren Makka

I’ve seen people joking about suicide and mocking it

I’ve seen people joking about suicide and mocking it. I do not understand that how do they even do it? Where do they find the audacity to mock the person who killed himself. You’re not supposed to hate the person who sins, you’re supposed to hate the sin. How can you even know that what was going on in that person’s life? If you think suicide is stupid then why not you try to behave and be kind to people who are suffering, who are going through mental trauma? Why not you people help these people before they kill themselves. You are the people who bully them, judge them, hurt them, pass comments and remarks on them whenever they are walking down the streets or hallways. A person who has anxiety or who is insecure about himself avoids going into crowds because he has the fear that people will judge him and laugh at him. He hears whispers in the hallways, when he walks through all these people he feels like everybody is watching him and judging him so he tries to walk swiftly just to get rid of their gazes. Kids at school, colleges and universities treat each other like trash. Mental illness is treated as a joke. When someone sees the scars on anybody’s wrists then they’ll laugh and joke about it and tease the person who has those marks on their hand. When someone tries to talk about mental illness and depression they give them a shut up call by saying that all this is bullshit. People really do not understand how the other person feels or maybe they just don’t try to. Maybe they don’t want to.

A Netflix original series 13 Reasons Why is based on the issues like suicide

A Netflix original series 13 Reasons Why is based on the issues like suicide, mental illness, sexual assault, rape, bullying and all these issues which teenagers face in high school and in colleges. I’ve heard people mocking Hannah Baker. It hurt me so much to hear all these remarks because people do not want to understand the hurt of others. They just don’t want to admit that they messed up the lives of others and they still do. How can someone be so heartless and impetuous in judging others? When you hurt someone you do not have a say that you did not. They say that this show sucks and is hyped, well I assure you people none of the issue discussed in this series is hyped. Every single thing is happening in our society which is discussed there but people simply do not want to admit that. Some people say that Hannah was stupid for killing herself. Sure she did the wrong thing but don’t you all see what were the reasons for her action? People never want to understand the reason. Hannah was an extremely sensitive person who was always nice to everyone and who believed in being good to others and that is where every single person took advantage of her. When a girl is nice to others everyone declares her as a slut *laughs ironically* I mean who are you even to judge anyone by the choices they make? People never look at their flaws, they think themselves as the perfect, pious human beings who ever lived.

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Suicide data as compiled by UN World Health Organization (WHO)

Dear people, you calling other people names can make them move one step closer in killing themselves

Dear people, you calling other people names can make them move one step closer in killing themselves, you slut shaming girls, body shaming others, judging others, raping girls, bullying others, taunting others and hurting others in any way can make them move one step closer in killing themselves, and who knows they might be already standing at the brink. Mental illness is a serious issue which must be taken into account. If you are facing any sort of crisis know that it’s never too late to seek help. Going to a therapist is not anything insulting. If you feel like you need help you have every right to seek a therapist or a friend or anyone you trust. We cannot afford to lose people like that. I guess we all have an element of humanity and kindness inside of us. Please please bring that out. Be nice to others. Love each other. Life is too short to spread hate. It’s okay not to be okay at times. We all have our dark days just never give up on yourself. Never think that you are not worthy of love. I ask everyone of you out there to help each other, love and respect each other and each other’s decisions and choices. Support them to achieve their dreams. Never make fun of anyone’s insecurities. It is never okay to hurt anyone.

To all those depressed people who are suffering out there

To all those depressed people who are suffering out there, I want you to draw a semicolon on your wrist and whenever you feel like self harming or killing yourself just look at that semicolon and know that you are the author of your story and you are strong and you are living to prove all these people wrong. Project Semicolon defines itself as “dedicated to presenting hope and love for those who are struggling with mental illness, suicide, addiction and self-injury”, and “exists to encourage, love and inspire”.

For those who need this:

Suicide Prevention Helpline Pakistan:




Remember you matter.
And you are loved.
And you are wanted.


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